|One key to finding someone is obviously your eye.
You have to know when to trust your eye. It seems though that your
eye is more important than you would think. In today's society you
have to use a first look to see if you like a girl. (Read lower in
the page for my first look, second look section.)
Let me explain my point. I have lived for a while looking for girls who I was already friends with to be the next girlfriend. Well that never worked. I'd hear, or they'd insinuate that they would want to remain friends with me. So this got me thinking, hmmm, how do people get together. I decided to ask people how they met their significant other. More importantly, I took note to how long they knew that special someone before they became a couple. It turns out that couples know each other for less than 1 month usually. There are some that know each other longer, but few. Many couples saw each other once or twice before their first date.
It seems to be the norm not to know your potential girl/boy friend. I guess that the "getting to know each other" part of the relationship is a lot of fun and worth doing. Also it turns dating into a hit or miss situation. The rule of the land is, just pick a person, ask him/her out and see if it works. Its not the conservative, take time to know the person, like the person than ask him/her out. Michael Bolton's song "How can we be lovers if we can't be friends" is not the theme song for anyone.
|A first look person is usually someone who is a model, or could be
one. S/he is a person you look at and say, wow s/he is beautiful, or hot.
Usually a first look person will take your breath away. This first look person works hard on their appearance. But if you look closely at the person again, you can usually see their personality come out. On the second look you say, "oh that person is no big deal." If you take the time to get to know a first look person, s/he is usually conceited, stuck up and selfish.
Advantages and disadvantages
Advantages: The advantages of a first look person are all aesthetic. If your mate is a first looker, you may get compliments from people saying, "your boy/girl friend is hot". Also, you may enjoy looking at your first look person. Perhaps show him/her off to your friends. Usually first look people can introduce you to more first look people. Also, you will probably get invited to more parties and meet new people.
Disadvantages: Lack of personality. These people think the world should bow down to them and grant their every wish. You can not do enough for first look people. First look people think that having sex with them is a gift for the other person. They are usually only capable of caring for themselves.
This usually happens to people who are attracted to first lookers.
|A second look person is much different. When you first see one, you
will probably say, "s/he looks nice". Than when you look again, you see
his/her personality revealed through their smile, and eyes. That is when
you say, "Wow s/he is really cute (or whatever word you like)". You may
wonder what in a person's personality can make them look more attractive.
Simple: a friendly, outgoing, sweet, generous, and happy person will have
a much happier smile and brighter eyes. Also these people tend to have
a "wholesome" look to them. They do not spend countless hours in front
of the mirror, but they are genuinely beautiful so they don't have to.
Advantages and Disadvantages
Advantages: There are many advantages to a second look person. Second look people sometimes put themselves second to you. They are not hung up on aesthetics. These second look people are the type of people that you can really look into their eyes and see their inner beauty. Second look people manage to find ways to make you smile. There is less pressure when you are out with a second look person than a first look person. Their smiles are usually to die for.
Disadvantages: When you and your second look companion enter a room,
people will not look at you in amazement. You guys may not be show stoppers
to people you do not know, but the people who you talk to will be amazed
at you two. Your second look date's charm will turn into a sparkle in her
eye, but that is a plus to compensate for the disadvantage of not being
I've brought back the old poll. You can see how the world and you stack up on the opinion of first look or second look people.
Do unto others as they have done unto you?
Fun little way to approach life. If someone crosses you, just cross him/her. An eye for an eye, tooth for a tooth. Living life like this lets you never feel cheated. You are never left with an expended feeling. You will take care of any problem. No one will walk over you. You could catch yourself opening a can of whoop ass once too often. You will realize that people can be cruel. Especially those who cross you and live with this philosophy.
Do unto others as you would like them to do unto you?
This is the official golden rule. If you want to be treated well, threat others well. Supposedly, by being nice to others, you should expect them to be nice to you. Sounds nice in theory. There is some truth to this matter. People are usually nice to people who are nice to them. If you adopt this philosophy, there are viscous people who would attempt to make you feel like a doormat.
Choose the lifestyle you live and see how you compare to others.